Break free from negative thinking and interpersonal pressure: How to say goodbye to the "obesity curse" through self-acceptance and a steadfast mind.

Extreme inferiority complex and low spirits. If you unconsciously feel "I am unhappy" somewhere in your heart, happiness will be hard to come by. Our environment, whether good or bad, is created by ourselves.

While not extremely ugly, she certainly wasn't beautiful. She didn't possess any special abilities, and her athletic ability was poor. Moreover, she was the short, stout type-not slim-waisted, not long-legged... Simply listing the parts she disliked was essentially pressing the "mechanism" button on the path to obesity. Constantly thinking "I'm so unfortunate" only made her more prone to negative thoughts like "I'm still not good enough," or "Anyway, I'm like this..." and ultimately, she truly became an overweight, unattractive person.

If something bad happens, and it happens one after another, and you think, "Why am I the only one who keeps encountering such bad luck?" then it's like when it rains, it pours; misfortune will keep haunting you.

Lately, I've noticed my close friends have become more prone to complaining, and soon I'll find my family members are doing the same. Or, if I feel the atmosphere at work is off, my relationships with my boyfriend and friends will become strained... These things aren't “accidental” but “inevitable.” Misfortune tends to attract those who perceive themselves as unhappy. If you start complaining, those around you will also become prone to complaining. In other words, the environment and relationships surrounding you are created by yourself.

If you truly aspire to be a stunningly beautiful woman, then join the circle of beautiful women and become a member of that circle. Being with such friends will help you understand your shortcomings and inspire you to work on improving them.

You can't easily escape the shadows of the past. The past is gone forever. All you have before you is the future. There, countless possibilities and opportunities await you. We often hear things like, "I'm prone to weight gain; I gain weight even from drinking water." And there are people who hate themselves because they unknowingly ate chocolate, which is forbidden when dieting.

After starting to lose weight, many people only consider which foods are good for weight loss and which are not, setting numerous restrictions for themselves. They tend to overthink everything they do and are not good at flexible problem-solving. Are you like this too? These are all "triggers" that easily lead to weight gain.

Weight loss is unsustainable if it's not enjoyable. Feelings of "happiness" and "satisfaction" are expressions from within the body. We need to move beyond the shadows of the past and create a positive environment for ourselves. Eating in a stress-free, relaxed state will help us become more optimistic and positive.

Moreover, when you reach a point where you can eat whatever you want without worrying about anything else, you can consciously think, "If that's the case, there's no need to rush to eat now," thus achieving your weight loss goals.

Do you ever feel down and stagnant because of a small mistake at work that angers your boss? Do you ever get hurt by a friend's unintentional remark, unable to refute it on the spot, yet unable to forget it and feeling troubled for a long time? Is it difficult to be forgiving of yourself and others in the face of minor incidents in daily life, saying things like, "Oh, is that so?" or "It's fine as it is?"

That would lead to constant unhappiness. Small, trivial worries would swell into bigger ones, unknowingly becoming stress that accumulates in your heart. That stress is the source of your appetite. It's stress that makes you feel "not full" even after you've eaten enough!

You can't refuse invitations from others. Clearly, you're a genuinely kind person. However, if you can't honestly express your "NO," even fat will accumulate in your body.

Imagine your family specially bought you your favorite sweet steamed buns, even though you weren't hungry. Would you still unconsciously start eating them? Because of your fuller figure, people around you might assume you have a large appetite and give you extra food. Even if you're already quite full, would you still say, "Then I won't be polite," and happily finish them?

When your colleagues invite you to go out for cake together, saying "Let's all go," and you go along because you think "they're being kind"... This inability to refuse others is actually a "trigger" for obesity.

Now let's suppose your boyfriend likes curvy girls. He knows you love sweets, so every time you meet, he gives you desserts as gifts or encourages you to eat more. You can't refuse, and feeling it would be a waste not to, you eat them all. Of course, you'll gain even more weight. Afterward, you'll hate yourself for gaining weight because you couldn't refuse others.

Even though you're trying to lose weight, you can't say "no" to invitations from others. Because your actions don't align with your true desires, stress is inevitable. This stress-induced appetite, more so than the calories in the food itself, is the real trap that leads to weight gain. Let's try saying "no" at least once. Let your feelings flow, let them out. You might be surprised to find that "it's actually quite simple." After that, you'll be able to naturally say "no" to foods that trigger stress-induced appetite.